“Before we did it I thought it would be weird and creepy but it was actually kind of hot.” “I was chatting with a guy who really wanted to hook up, so he begged to peek in my window and watch me jerk off on my bed, so I let him, and he played with himself outside and came on my window,” says Jesse, 33. However, the city (Toronto) took notice and either closed them entirely, or reduced the hours and increased security.”įor some, cruising is still too risky, so they get creative. “With all the closures and restrictions on indoor spaces (combined with the colder weather), friends of mine have noticed a resurgence of cruising in washrooms. “Cruising already has a risk to it and the fact that we're in a pandemic has added to that risk, but behaviors really haven’t changed much,” Jakes observes. “Cruising offers the opportunity to have physical connection, but from a distance, so it’s a perfect fit for the current pandemic situation.” “I think that there’s fatigue in the social and physical distancing,” sex and relationship therapist, Dr.
Given that we’re now a full year into the pandemic (can you believe it’s been a fucking year?!), there’s been a notable resurgence in the classic act of cruising. Not the craziest cruising story in the world, but we did watch Cruising (1980)-a film starring Al Pacino that’s been largely scrutinized for stigmatizing gay men-later that night. I don’t know if it was overexcitement or overstimulation but I wasn’t ready yet. As the figure drew closer, I pulled my pants up. I’d only been out of the closet for a few short months and this was like nothing I’d ever known.Īs soon as we spotted somebody in the distance, he excitedly dropped to his knees, pulled down my pants and started sucking my cock. My arms were crossed the entire time, something I often do when I’m uncomfortable.
He took my hand as I exited the car, and then led me into a dense forest laced with skinny trails pointing in every direction.
I was excited, but also incredibly nervous. My heart was pounding through my chest when we pulled up to the hill. The first man I dated out of the closet was older than me, and took it upon himself to give me a lesson in gay culture by taking me to a popular cruising spot in the middle of the night. But then again, I came out in the era of Grindr, where dick is delivered to your door quicker than pizza. Admittedly, my experience with cruising is limited.